06 October 2012

a little unsolicited marital advice

while I am away in Lake Placid with my ladies, I am reposting some of my favorites from days gone by.
we'll be back to regularly scheduled blogging next week!

My sister texted me today (because I don't talk on the phone) and asked if I had any advice for newlyweds. 
Her friend is compiling a list and since I let advice flow freely, wanted or not, Stacy asked me. 
I told her I'd think about it and get back to her. I love questions like these.

I thought about the things that have worked for us, but mostly I thought 
about the advice I would have given myself before getting married. 
And actually, the advice I should really be giving myself on a daily basis. 
Because in the 6 years, 1 month, 1 week, 2 days and 4 hours that I have been married, 
I have yet to fully put into action the following five things that would make any marriage work. 
So as much for you, dear reader, as for myself, I share with you my limited marital wisdom.

1. Don't start any conversation with anything that may even be perceived as a criticism. Genuine compliments go a long way.

2. Always try to respond with "yes", rather than immediately saying (or thinking) "no".

3. Find at least one thing to say "thank you" for everyday. 

4. Praying together on a daily basis makes all the difference in the world. 

5. Pick up your crap.

(Please don't tell my husband about this list. I'm still working on it.)

Many years of wedded bliss to you all!


  1. Haha love love love this list! The last one made me laugh :)

  2. Great list! Have a beautiful time!!! xo Heather

  3. love this. the simple things like these make a huge difference every day!

  4. Very good list. Saying Thank You for things, even insignificant seeming ones, is a big thing that Hubby and I do. It makes the other person feel so good and appreciated.

  5. Hi Carina, I've been married 19 years, 7 months, 26 days, and 2.5 hours. :) My cousin married a few years ago and at her shower, a book was passed around for us married folks to share advice. Mine was as follows: No matter how much you love each other, fighting is inevitable. It is how you fight that makes a huge difference. Remember that words can hurt deeply and can't be taken back. Avoid name-calling and don't bring up the past or old hurts. They are in the past and need to stay there. And, as our granny always said, "be good to each other and love each other." :)