25 September 2011

life is lovely

It is so easy to get bogged down by the difficulties around me. To get frustrated and exasperated and just tired with all each day holds. The number of tasks can outnumber the minutes I have to accomplish them. My kids can be loud and uncooperative. People I love can be struggling and I can't do anything about it. 

But then my eyes can be opened to all the goodness around me. There is a lot of it, too - millions of tiny miracles happening all around to remind me that when I look outside of my tininess, God's greatness is surrounding me above and below and on every side.

You might remember this post about the perplexity that is my oldest boy. Four has been hard. It has taught me a lot about letting go and praying and being consistent and that I don't know very much about parenting. But then I changed my prayer from 'let me get through this day' to 'give me a heart that delights in my child.' And He did. I have found such joy in just being around Lute lately that I find myself getting weepy over how delightful he is. Miracle? I think so. Things were dicey there for a bit. When we ask God to change us, rather than everyone else around us, things happen. It's kind of amazing.

Then this morning we met my mom for breakfast at a local diner after church. As soon as we walked in, I knew we were in trouble. Nearly every table was filled with older people - probably regulars who came in to enjoy a nice, leisurely weekend brunch. Until my boys enter the corner booth and are anything but quiet. Nick and I cringed as they yelled, climbed on the table, attempted to crawl on the windowsill and threw our keys inches from the neighboring table's carafe of steamy coffee. {On a side note, we do correct them every.single.time. one of the above occurs.} As soon as the food arrived, they finally piped down and ate like they hadn't been fed for days {it had been approximately 90 minutes}. 

And yet. As we finished up, another diner approached our table. 
"I just have to tell you," she said gently, "you are doing a wonderful job with these boys."
Did angels just start singing in Heaven? I have to tell you that these words of encouragement are never more welcome than when our kids are rowdy {normal} in public. But, they are always welcome, and always always always fill my heart with gratitude for the kindness of others. There are not sweeter words to a mother's ears.

And finally, a sweet moment before naps today. 
As I carried Eddie into his crib, I hugged him and said, "I love you so much, buddy."
He laughed, looked at me, and said, "I love you soooo much."
He's two. 
And that might be his first five word sentence. Talk about getting a little weepy. 
On second thought, those might be the sweetest words to this mama's ears.

Yep, I have it pretty good around here. 


  1. I've been reading your blog for a while now, and I always find it very encouraging. Thanks for writing :)

  2. Thanks for the reminder. I've been struggling lately with getting too caught up in my checklist and not enough in enjoying the sweet little moments.

  3. Wow, I just love how you changed your prayer. I'm in the middle of rethinking my goals, and I'm trying hard to think of how *I* need to change and not everyone around me. This is lovely.

  4. Your post as so sweet, it made me teary eyed. I struggle with my youngest child (stubborn and strong willed).. and your post is so perfect. Maybe I need to ask Him what I need to change about MYself and MY attitude.. thank you for this wonderful post.
    (first time visiting, found you at we encourage link up and so happy to have found you!)

  5. We have 3 boys too so I can completely relate to the restaurant scene. I've had older women come up and say similar compliments to me and it really encouraged my frazzled self. We have a 3 year old who has been tough. I love your prayer for God to change you. I think that is very wise and I'm going to be doing that from now on.

  6. Sometimes we just wonder are we doing it right? And I think the lady who came over is almost like a little confirmation of the Lord saying your doing fine_ keep going... love your post. :)

  7. This is SO sweet and perfect! You ARE doing a good job. Such an inspirational mama!

    <3 Daryl
    Roots, Wings, and Other Things.

  8. awww.....this is SO SO sweet and SO encouraging!! I have a 5 year old and a 2 and half year old. They test me and try my limits EVERYDAY!! I have really been working on this and totally needed to hear this today!! Thank you for the blessing!!

  9. Thank you! I needed to hear that!! I have been praying the 'Lord, help me get through the day.' Instead of 'help me to delight in my children.' Wow! Thank you for this encouragement. I am totally going to do this. When I want change, may it start with me!!

    Oh and aren't outside compliments about your kids the best?! I need to do this for others so they can feel as I do when I receive them. =)

  10. What a lovely post... I have had a similar situation happen at Denny's. My kids were acting all afool and I was as calmly as possible attempting to wrangle them... I was so embarrassed. There was this older lady who kept looking over at us, and when she walked over after she had eaten I almost died thinking she was going to give me a talking to. Instead she told me and my hubs how great we were doing with our kids. It was SUCH a blessing.

  11. I just got teary eyed. Lucky you!

  12. awww..i love how you looked for the sweet moments in your day! you have a beautiful family!

  13. Such a beautiful post. We must always pray for God to change OUR hearts. I love this. And is there anything better than a compliment from a stranger about our kids?! No! Good job momma, thanks for linking up